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PETER JACOBSON's avatar

So beautifully written. Thank you for sharing this. Life is so strange and complex and beautiful. We are given these little angels that light up our lives. True gifts. Pure love. My heart goes out to you and Jose and Alex.

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Michael Vincent Scalisi's avatar

Thank you Pete. I appreciate your sentiments and support. x

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DannyT's avatar

Sending you love and light. Praying for fond memories and a connection that will never leave you and Bebe. Sending you hugs, but want to give you a real one soon my dear friend.

Beautiful writing, as always. You somehow speak in gorgeous universality while telling your unique story. You’re writing is a gift to all.

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Michael Vincent Scalisi's avatar

Thank you my true friend. X

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DannyT's avatar

🙏🏻💜🙏🏻💜

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clara vasquez's avatar

Three men and a Bebe....

i feel so bad for you guys. Is hard to even text and ask how you guys are doing. I know you are not ok, nor Alex, nor Jose.

In time your heart wrench will ease, but you will miss her for ever.

I send you guys a big hug.... <3

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Michael Vincent Scalisi's avatar

Thank you sweeet Clara ❤️

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Ethan C Mordden's avatar

Lovely. There are a lot of lines strong enough to have been the last one--"I am Kentuck who hopes." "Real Men don't cry." Others. The Harte story ties in wonderfully. We read it in high school in tandem with Katherine Anne Porter's Noon Wine, I guess because they're both westerns treating work and death as strangely linked in life.

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Michael Vincent Scalisi's avatar

Thank you Ethan, for friendship and introducing and educating me to so much. I most certainly will read Noon Wine. x

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John's avatar

This is so beautifully written. The angst, sadness, and despair that you are feeling. are palpable. Your words are poignant, heartfelt and affecting. It is so clear that your relationship with sweet Sydney was indeed very special and you both benefitted for such an amazing bond. Despite the trauma and mournfulness, you essay is a moving tribute to Sydney. The 5+ short years you had together were a gift,, one that will stay in your heart forever. Magnificent, Mike.

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Michael Vincent Scalisi's avatar

Indeed a tribute. It's all so hard, but time will help and thoughts and beautiful friendship from you. x

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Bonnie Metzger's avatar

Barnum, the love of my dog life, Silver my soulmate love, Chili my darling boy, for sweet Rufus who just had a large black tumor removed from his eyebrow, tests back soon. Your grief is universal and so deeply personal. Heartbreaking and raw. My grief at learning my mother y sister were both dying together of cancer was as unspeakable as anything I’ve known other than putting Silver and Chilipepper down together three Xmas ago. Fucking cancer. It looms in me as it did Bebe, a name I was called by the other love of my life. I cry for you. For us all.

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Michael Vincent Scalisi's avatar

Oh Bonnie, I pray Rufus and his happy results. Thank you for your moving wordsa dn sympathies. It means a lot to me always and especially in this moment. x

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Bonnie Metzger's avatar

I am so moved, I didn’t mention Bebe. She was the most adorable girl imaginable. Her personality jumped off the page. To go so young is cruel and heartbreaking. I am so sorry.

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Michael Vincent Scalisi's avatar

Thank you. xo

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Bonnie Metzger's avatar

Tears streaming down my face. For Bebe. For her three fathers. For you. For the

Loss of

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SUSAN's avatar

Michael, I am so sorry to hear about Bebe. Having owned dogs I know how special they are, and how painful it is to lose them. So sad as Bebe was so young. At times the pain is unbearable and will take a while for you to heal from this loss. I know how much you loved little BeBe and am sure she adored you. Your article is such a heartfelt tribute to her. She was so adorable and lucky to have you in her short life.

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